What if humans had no language? How would we communicate with one another; how would our interactions change? As a word nerd, I find that hard to imagine. Yet sign language has been a universal tool between cultures. On several occasions, I’ve been in groups of tourists from other countries. Although I couldn’t follow conversations, it was pretty easy to get the gist of their discussion by paying attention to body language, facial expression, and tone of voice. But, within our own culture and language, we miss a lot because we don’t use our eyes in that way.
Sometimes people ask where ideas for this column come from. This one is courtesy of our dogs. Ruby and Tara are extremely good at getting their message across. A twinkle in the eyes and wagging tail means they want attention and pets. A low grumbly growl means it time for supper, and there’s one kind of bark for company arriving and a different one for night time marauders in the yard. Sitting at our feet with an expectant stare is asking for the snack they get after we have our supper. When they sit by our chairs and lean against us, they are saying, “I love you so much.”
If there’s an overnight bag on the bed or in the hallway, they follow every step we take with sad eyes and droopy tails. They know when we turn down the road to the vet for an office call, and are fine with that. But if it’s for boarding when we travel, they can tell as soon as we make the turn, and start to complain.
Like children, they argue over a toy. Tara will lie on top of the green toy (their favorite toys are always green) and gloat, while Ruby whines and tries to sneak in and grab it. If unsuccessful, she comes to tattle to one of us.
We have learned to spell MAIL rather than saying it, but I think they can spell too, because they begin begging to go when we spell that, or GO. They know our morning routine and if we are late doing chores, they remind us. They do know words, of course, “Watch the house” means they have to stay home but we’ll return soon. Sit, stay, come, and NO, are basic, and they learned those early. They understand the difference between “Bring a toy” and, Get the ball.”
All animals have the ability to get a message across. If the horse’s ears are back, he’s unhappy and may give you trouble. If he rubs his head on you, he’s your friend. I used to chide my kids about cow talk. “You can tell when she’s about to kick the bucket over, so move it.” “Keep your eyes on the herd when we’re holding them up for a cut. You can spot the ones that are about to make a break,”
So, just because we two leggeds have words, doesn’t mean we should shut our eyes when we interact. We could learn a lot about how to respond if we would just stop, look, and listen. We often use words as a cover up but body language, ears, and eyes don’t lie.
Meet me here next week and meanwhile do your best. Somebody might like it.