“Where are you from, and who are your people?” This is the question we ask, in one form or another, upon meeting someone for the first time.
Most of us understand that geography has a lot to do with forming culture and values. Things that are important to folks in urban areas may not matter much to rural residents. On the other hand, some folks move to the city for amenities not available in the place they come from. Others decide to ditch the hustle and bustle and retire or raise their kids in a quieter setting. Either way, the people with whom newcomers come in contact will make certain assumptions based on previous locations.
Who are your people? Again, assumptions come into play. When traveling in Canada we often got this exchange. Nebraska? I know people in Omaha, is that close to you? Closer to home it changes. Messersmith…I know a Messersmith in Lincoln. Any relation? Generally not, evidently our name is almost as common as Smith or Jones.
What this is really about is an effort to know how to interact with a new acquaintance. What might we have in common? Based on location, what is the likely political mindset? What opportunities may this person have had to broaden their education? What skills might they have learned?
The next query is likely to be about employment. Again, what common ground might we have? If none, then perhaps we have a chance to educate ourselves or the new person about the differences. It’s easy to use this information to make snap judgements so be open to learning.
Many of us are proud of our roots, although I know one person who admits to having been born in California but says she got out as soon as possible. Some downplay their rural background for fear of being branded a hillbilly but the best option is to be yourself.
A common warning from parents whose offspring leave rural communities and become well known is, “Don’t get above your raising.” Dolly Parton is a perfect example of someone who never got above her raising. The faith and family values she got in that humble home stayed with her for life, and became the basis for all the ways she chose to help others.
A lot of famous folks have been asked what their favorite Dolly song is. Mine is one not often mentioned, and I choose it for the reflection of who she always was. “Coat of Many Colors” may or may not have been somewhat autobiographical, but it honors her roots.
Some people who come from small towns and go on to achieve fame in sports or other careers come back now and then to organize youth camps, art festivals, or drama productions, and tutor aspiring athletes or artists. But you don’t have to be famous to give back. Take whatever talent or skill you have and share it. Sing in the choir. Help out with the community play. Join the historical society. Be a teammate mentor. The possibilities are unlimited.
If you want a hero to follow, I have a suggestion. Be a Dolly.